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Love Me Instead

By: Clarissa Constantine Tuesday November 29, 2022 comments

Love Me Instead

Man…gotta love social media. It brought an amazing excerpt to my feed today, written by Jeff Foster. It’s called ‘When You Try to Fix Me.’ ( If you haven’t read it, here’s a link to the post that I shared in The ParenTween Connection Facebook group today.) I remember as a kid when I’d share something that was frustrating me, my mom would frequently try to offer solutions to the situation. She was TOTALLY trying to help! But MAN did it piss me off! I couldn’t articulate it then, but I didn’t WANT a solution. When she... Read More


Options

By: Clarissa Constantine Wednesday September 7, 2022 comments

Options

Photo by Vladislav Babienko on Unsplash Options. ‘I just want him to have options.’ How many parents have I heard utter these words? In 24 years of being a test prep coach, you can guarantee I’ve heard them a lot. A. LOT. And it’s usually a statement used to back up their fervor of encouraging (nagging/hassling/cajoling/whatever-ing) their high school kids (more often than not, their boys who seemingly couldn’t give a care about their future) into earning good grades and trying harder on their SATs, ACTs, and... Read More


What if You Could Make Someone's Day Better Today?

By: Clarissa Constantine Wednesday August 24, 2022 comments Tags: #teens , #tweens, #parentingteens, #parentingtweens, #school

What if You Could Make Someone's Day Better Today?

Last week, one of my high school seniors told me she hates going to school. Of course, I asked her why. She said she just feels like it’s boring and it gets in the way of the direction she wants to go in life. She has aspirations of being a salon owner and already has a FANTASTIC part-time job working in a salon. She does the bookkeeping for the salon, manages inventory, welcomes guests – all skills that she learned on the job. And going to school gets in her way, she feels. She’s also the eldest of three kids, whose mom is a widow.... Read More


To listen you must be silent…

Tuesday November 2, 2021 comments

To listen you must be silent…

To listen you must be silent… I heard this on a conference call attended by business coaches today. The two words are anagrams of each other (meaning they’re spelled with the same letters but create different words). LISTEN rearranged is SILENT. How many of us are actually good at being silent? Silence is REALLY hard for a lot of us. In sales, experts tell you that the first person to speak will lose the negotiation. But in relationships, I believe the first person to speak wins – especially if the person speaking is a teen... Read More


What if?

By: Clarissa Constantine Wednesday March 3, 2021 comments

What if?

‘What if?’ This is, without question, one of my favorite questions. Or not favorite questions, depending on whether I have to use it myself. There are two thoughts that show up for me relative to this question. First, what I call ‘The “What If” Spiral.’ Whenever anxiety kicks in and I start what-if-ing myself, the what-ifs are NEVER positive. It’s never like, what if I win the lottery? Or, what if I find the best parking spot ever? Nope, instead, it’s negative…what if my husband gets mad at me? Or, what if I... Read More


RAISING CONFIDENT KIDS, ONE THOUGHT AT A TIME

Friday April 10, 2020 comments Tags: Jen Lebo

RAISING CONFIDENT KIDS, ONE THOUGHT AT A TIME

I always promised myself that I’d never use 'that' type of language around my kids. You know the words I’m talking about: diet, losing weight, being fat, not being thin enough, good enough, smart enough,… enough. I was going to do it differently than my mom did. I was going to teach my kids that they need never diet, that they were beautiful and amazing, and that they deserved to love themselves. Self-worth. Yeah, self-worth was what I was going to teach them. But then one day, my youngest son came to me in tears. He... Read More




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