"Self," Clarissa wondered one day, "Why is it that my test prep clients often feel more comfortable talking to me about heavy stuff than they do with their own families?"

The answer can be found in the Foundations of CONNECTION.

When you're outside the emotional history — the old arguments, the unspoken expectations, the well-meaning fears — it's easier to create the kind of space where people feel truly safe and heard.

The good news?

You can create that kind of connection too. The Foundations of CONNECTION are simple skills you can learn, practice, and use — whether you're talking with your teen, working with clients, leading a team, or building stronger relationships in every part of your life.

Create a Safe Place

Set the tone for openness, trust, and vulnerability — without judgment or pressure.

Observe
Pay attention to what’s really being said (and not said) in conversations and interactions.

Nonjudgment

Hold space for others' experiences without labeling them as "good" or "bad."

Nod (& Smile!)
Acknowledge feelings and words with simple, authentic gestures that encourage openness.

Explore
Get curious instead of making assumptions — ask questions that invite deeper understanding.

Challenge Your Truths
Take a compassionate look at your own beliefs and assumptions.

Take Your Time
Connection isn’t a race. Relationships need breathing room to grow.

Innovate
If something isn’t working, try a new approach. Creativity strengthens connection.

Own Your Own Story
Be honest about your experiences and how they shape your perspective — without expecting others to match them.

Nurture
Great relationships are built intentionally — one moment, one conversation, one choice at a time.